Your Spouses Special Day
Birthdays, wedding anniversaries, convocations, etc means more to some than others. While some forget even their own birthday, some take it as a very special and memorable day. This is owing, among many other reasons, to different background and personal disposition.
The day the Ark of the Covenant of the Lord entered into Jerusalem was one of the happiest days of David. David danced before the LORD with all his might; (in the public) with shouting and sound of trumpet, wearing an ordinary linen ephod. But his wife, Michal, was not there to dance and rejoice with him. She was perhaps, the only person not out to rejoice with David. She chose to rather look through a window, and when she saw king David leaping and dancing before the LORD, she despised him in her heart! (2Sam.6:14-23).
She came out later, only to say: ‘how glorious was the king of Israel today, who uncovered himself in the eyes of the handmaids of his servants, as one of the vain fellows shamelessly uncovereth himself’!
Can you imagine what a disdainful gift Michal offered her husband in the day of his happiness? Wasn’t she supposed to praise and eulogize him and say sweet nothings of how proud she was of David, etc? But she chose to call him a vain and shameless fellow! Her own husband!
It’s not too heavy for some people to call their partners unprintable names at the slightest provocation. It shows lack of respect, honour and wisdom. When you don’t respect your spouse, you will not respect or remember his or her special days. If you remember at all, it doesn’t move you in any way. You see the day as ordinary day.
When you forget your partner’s special day, or fail to honour him or her, you are invariably displaying how unbothered you are. It’s like saying: ‘I don’t care’.
Whatever the attitude of your spouse towards his of her special day, be there to show that you care. Be actively involved. Celebrate him or her. Make the day a special day. Be the first to say ‘congratulations’, ‘happy birthday’, ‘happy anniversaries’, etc before anyone else! If you are away, wake him or her up with a romantic text message, then, a call later. Make sure you arrange a special gift that very day. It could be flowers, cards, or anything you know your spouse likes. Arrange for a special treat at home or in a restaurant just alone. Say sweet words through different means. Make him or her feel loved. It is an abomination to forget your spouse’s special day! It is a taboo not to have anything to give. True love ALWAYS gives! John 3:16.
It is an abomination to assume that your spouse already knows that you love him or her and there is no need to say it. It’s sadly one of the few times in a year when some people remember to say ‘I love you’ to their spouse. Still better than not at all. If your spouse live on such words everyday, imagine the damage you are doing to him or her!
Don’t allow poverty mentality, it-doesn’t-matter syndrome, or finalism rob you of providing joy and happiness to your spouse. Don’t be too busy to forget to honour him or her. Your wife or husband is the only ‘property’ you posses with ‘receipt’. Learn to cherish him or her. Your children belong to someone else. Make your spouse’s special day a memorable day. Share together, walk together, talk together, pray together. Let everything be special from dish, to sleep, etc.
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