Watch Your Tongue by Bola Olu-Jordan
In times of misunderstanding, always be cautious of your verbal outburst (Prov. 4:24)
Don't go into temporal insanity because of provocation. ‘be yea angry but sin not; let not the sun go down upon your wrath’ (Eph.4:26). Always remember that ‘if any offend not in word, the name is a perfect man, and able also to bridle his whole body’ (Jas.3:2) During such times, learn to control your temper by keeping quiet. ‘Even a fool, when he holdeth his peace, is counted wise: and he that shutteth his lips is esteemed a man of understanding’ (Pro. 17:28) It is better to say nothing than to say something you would either regret later or wished you never said. ‘Death and life are in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat he fruit thereof’ (Prov.18:21). Let all words (negative or positive), abuses, complaints, corrections, etc, pass through Christ before it gets to your spouse. ‘For there is one God, and one mediator between God and men, the man Christ Jesus’ (1Tim.2:5) Always attack the problem, not your spouse. Fight issues not people. Don’t assault your in-laws verbally during exchange of words with your spouse Face yourselves, not your in-laws If you bite the problem the way you bite yourself, the problem will soon be over. |